Confidence is not funny, stumbling is not funny, except both.
(Max Frisch, Swiss writer, 1911 - 1991)
... whether it was my doctoral students in the field of business computer science, the Bachelor of Arts, the machinist, the pastoral, the insurance clerk, the lawyer or the CEO of a logistics company coaching: all have (at first) something in common: they are in a stage of life changes. And every change brings - because unknown - even with the uncertainty.
my clients know this about me: on the breath eighth (oxygen supply to the brain), both feet auf den Boden, nicht gekreuzt (Bodenkontakt: Wo stehe ich?), Beine nebeneinander, um keine inneren Organe abzuschnüren...
Oh ja: kluge Tipps gibt es viele - auch hier! Doch wie setze ich diese für mich um?
Glücksforscher aus der psychologischen Forschung haben herausgefunden, dass der wichtigste Baustein für unser Selbstbewusstsein das Glücksempfinden ist. Dies belegen auch neuere Langzeitstudien aus den Jahren 2010/11 ( Martin Binder und Alex Coad vom Jenaer Max-Planck-Institut für Ökonomik, http://idw-online.de/pages/de/news406751
Ros Taylor, Arbeitspsychologin aus den USA, hat in Ihrem Buch: listed "self-confidence in 7 days" some interesting theories:
first Tag: self-consciousness begins in the head (notice the positive)
It is the positive view of what we do: while one is pleased about partial steps is not for the others the result perfect. While one is pleased with his curly hair, bright eyes and soft voice, the other bent nose, small breasts too, sees the pimples on the chin ...
issues in professional life: What can I do? What am I worth? The more positive the answers fail, I save these in my brain, the more often I send out the signal of its own ego strength.
second Tag: Stop the modesty
It is a big difference between: "I think , I have done everything well" and "I've everything well." You may reward yourself now for what you have done particularly well?
third Tag: Self confidence
- maintain eye contact (you have nothing to hide!)
- Kritik wegstecken (klappt nicht immer, aber manchmal sollten wir einfach einige Bemerkungen von Arbeitskollegen aus unserem Gedächtnis "verdrängen" (unter der Rubrik: weniger wertvoll)
- einfach anfangen zu reden (Mir kommen meist dabei die besten Gedanken!)
- mit dem Charme spielen (Knigge, Höflichkeit und Sympathie): zeigen Sie dem anderen, dass Sie ihn mögen, Ihn wertschätzen.
Dies scheint mir der wichtigste Tag zu sein: Wie oft "verbiegen" wir uns im Leben, weil mir meinen, dadurch dem a favor done. And how often our own energy is absorbed, not because we (should) do what determines our heartbeat?
And remember, by saying no you develop your own conflict management skills and your self-confidence.
5th Tag: models look
There are people around you, in public or policy: it's worth, I here to look exactly how you speak? What do you wear? What strategies do you follow? What distinguishes you most?
Attention: They are not the small child who runs after someone.
Look carefully: I like where it: Imitation is allowed!
6th Tag: smiles Who wins
you appreciation, sympathy and affection want from others? Then start today to history: friendly, smiling and pleasant appearance: these are your secret weapon for success and self-confidence
7th. Tag: desire for new
Try something new to try out a recipe, another spectacle, the holiday in the summer: Only those who will face new challenges learn to praise and criticism to deal, training his self-consciousness on the way to a happy and successful life.
Some customers recessions of the above cited book, you can see Amazons .
I wish you every success for the upcoming weeks! from
Sincerely, Lüdinghausen
Ulrich Kable